How can I overcome hating that my husband is Bengali and hating when his family speaks Bengali in front of me?

I take it you mean you don't hate anyone from Bangladesh, but it's the scenario that you're describing. So in terms of that, yes, if you're in a situation whereby others in the room are speaking a language which is foreign to you and you're kind of left out, then we know that this should be avoided. In fact, there's a hadith in Sahih Bukhari, the Prophet ﷺ said that if there are three people in a room and two of them whisper so that the third one can't hear, then that's something which shouldn't be allowed, meaning that the third person shouldn't be made to feel, you know, as an outsider or to be feel left out until other people are present in the room. So this is a similar type of scenario. And yes, it shouldn't happen. And the only way really to kind of avoid it would be for your husband, who's Bengali, to be able to speak to his family and to convey this, that, you know, makes you feel uncomfortable and that they should try and involve you. If there's a need to speak, you know, when you're there and it's only you who doesn't understand, then it's possible to do it in another room or at a different time.