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Should I marry someone I am only a little attracted to?
I mean, the honest answer is no. You're going to be waking up to that person for the rest of your life. You don't want to have somebody that you're not attracted to. I know you've mentioned you're a little bit attracted to them. But we know the Prophet ﷺ, he said in the Hadith al-Bayhaqi, when a companion once went to tell him that he's going to marry a female, the Prophet ﷺ said, 'Did you look at her?' And the companion said, no. So the Prophet ﷺ said, 'Go back and look at her.' Go and look at her to ensure that there's a level of attraction. There's nothing wrong. There's nothing shameful at all in any way, shape or form that you want to be attracted to your potential spouse. And that should be the case. So if you're not attracted in any way, then maybe it's best to move on. Attraction can also grow. That's also something to bear in mind, particularly if there are other factors in terms of how you're getting on and so on. So it's not the be all and end all. However, there should be some level of attraction between the two of you.