How to control anger with the tongue when angry?
The sheikh mentioned three Prophetic practices for managing anger: remembering anger's origin, reciting a hadith, and staying silent.
🤝 Character & Manners
22 Q&As
Is a husband sinful for repeatedly bringing up past sins?
One should never publicize sins, as a hadith warns that Allah forgives all except those who sin in public by revealing sins He had covered.
Are shoes allowed to be upside down?
No direct answer was given; the sheikh responded humorously by questioning the premise and stating shoes can be upside down.
What constitutes beneficial knowledge as Sadaqa Jahriya, like cooking videos?
Sharing a cooking recipe is a form of ongoing charity (sadaqah jariyah) if it enables good deeds for others and is done with good intention.
How to get over someone who treated me badly?
Forgive others and Allah will forgive you.
How should one respond when hurt by others?
Forgive those who hurt you with the intention that Allah will forgive you, as mentioned in a hadith.
How should I deal with resentment and rage towards my parents?
The sheikh advised that anger is from Satan and to prioritize forgiving others so that Allah will forgive you.
How can I overcome hating that my husband is Bengali and hating when his family speaks Bengali in front of me?
Your husband should convey your discomfort to his family, and they should involve you or speak privately at another time.
Can I cut contact with my siblings who hate me and cause me problems because I give them dawah?
No, do not cut ties; focus on using good character and indirect da'wah to attract them.
How do you let go of resentment, especially towards family?
Forgive others and show mercy because you want Allah's forgiveness, using a hadith as guidance.
Paradise is at mother's feet, but my mum is a narcissist.
The hadith is a general statement emphasizing doing your best to be kind and care for your mother, with room for exceptions and practical limits.
What is the wisdom behind continuous trials that test patience and steadfastness, like Prophet Ayyub experienced?
The sheikh explained that enduring difficulties expiates sins, earns rewards for patience, draws one closer to Paradise, and is a sign of Allah's love and a means to attain higher ranks in Jannah.
How to control anger?
The sheikh gave three tips to control anger: remembering anger is from shaytan, seeking refuge from shaytan, changing posture, and performing wudu.
How can I be subtle in inviting non-Muslim colleagues and neighbours to Islam?
The sheikh said the most important and subtle form of invitation is through demonstrating excellent character, as exemplified by the Prophet, because Muslims are always ambassadors of Islam.
What can I do about a diseased heart?
The sheikh said to recognize the heart's condition and seek remedies through remembrance of Allah, Quran, repentance, and good deeds.
How do you forget and forgive a person who betrayed and used you?
Forgiving betrayal is difficult but normal; the Prophet advised to forgive others to earn Allah's forgiveness and to focus on the hereafter, which diminishes painful feelings over time.
How do we obtain the highest level of sabr?
The highest level of sabr is being patient with Allah's decree and maintaining good thoughts about His wisdom and goodness.
Is it permissible to swear and curse when upset?
Vulgar language is not befitting a Muslim; one must be gentle in speech, guard the tongue to avoid punishment, and remember that angels record every word.
Can you please clarify backbiting? At what point does it become this?
Backbiting is saying something about an absent person who would dislike it if they heard it, unless the listener doesn't know the person or there are specific exceptions like therapy or legal cases.
Isn't it against the teachings in our din to critique food? They should be grateful for it instead.
While we should generally avoid criticizing food and be grateful, offering critique for a specific reason like advising others is permissible.
After adultery many times, one feels hopeless and there is no saving the soul.
One should never despair of Allah's mercy, as He forgives even immense sins if one sincerely repents and asks for forgiveness.
Why am I having constant bad dreams and what do they mean?
The sheikh explained that dreams come from three sources and recommended reciting ayat al-kursi before sleep to prevent bad dreams.